Can anyone offer some insights or readings regarding an anti-capitalist critique of modern love and romance? I was very moved by the following passage from The Coming Insurrection:
"The couple is like the final stage of the great social debacle. It’s the oasis in the middle of the human desert. Under the auspices of “intimacy,” we come to it looking for everything that has so obviously deserted contemporary social relations: warmth, simplicity, truth, a life without theater or spectator. But once the romantic high has passed, “intimacy” strips itself bare: it is itself a social invention, it speaks the language of glamour magazines and psychology; like everything else, it is bolstered with so many strategies to the point of nausea. There is no more truth here than elsewhere; here too lies and the laws of estrangement dominate. And when, by good fortune, one discovers this truth, it demands a sharing that belies the very form of the couple. What allows beings to love each other is also what makes them lovable, and ruins the utopia of autism-for-two."
So I think that's a good starting point. But the idea is not really developed any further in TCI. I also think that a close reading of Engel's The Origin of the Family and Private Property and the State might also help in this regard, but, although I've only read the wikipedia summary, seems to promote a type of natural or unalienated monogamy, whereas I intend to challenge the basic idea of monogamy (although I do see value in the idea of forced versus free monogamy).
I also heard somewhere that romance involves the assumption of scarcity, that while there are roughly equal amounts of women and men in most of western society, there exists a sense that only a small fraction of people are worthy of being a mate or desire being a mate. Sadly, the only thing I could find related to this idea was from (don't laugh) Oprah.com.
So that's what I have so far. Any suggestions.
EDIT: Wow, I almost forgot to mention two theoretical frames that would be invaluable to this. I am referring of course to queer theory and (radical?) feminism.