it really depends on the person i'm engaging really. but a few points have helped on the very rare occasion chaos enters a conversation.
i tend to see and use 'chaos' as an opening, a clearing, for/of potentials/possibilities, neither good nor bad, the latter of which only speak of our values, judgements, worldview, beliefs, etc.
i like to point out that what's often called 'chaotic' can be seen as the residue, the externalities, the consequences of an imposed order. war, famine, climate change, economic failure, ecocide, 'mental illness,' etc.
i tend to point out that no matter how much certainty may be promised in the name of 'order' that the very notion of the latter can only destabilized continuously by the very conditions of life: flux, ephemerality, limits...
the pursuit of 'order' seems far more problematic, since it can only be imposed upon our already chaos-contoured lives. it bespeaks to me of a deep dissatisfaction of 'the real' and an entirely over-rated, narcissistic quest to impose certainty where there can be none.