i can't speak to kilam's thoughts, but i'll try to speak to my own.
Anarchy/anarchism/anarchist spans many layers of social constructs (i never bothered with sociology, so i don't know the appropriate terms for the concepts here.)
Anarchy could be considered an ideology of sorts, when we use it as an abstract, as a what-will-be after-the-revolution; though we constantly violate the ideological rules of blind faith. Anarchist could be considered a sub-cultural identification, especially if viewed toward the typical hyphenated insular groups. For those of us in between, the terms fade to meaninglessness; and seeking their trail yields us more confusion than meaning.
One thing does strike me, "then people who do not share your ideology will call you a anarchist" - i don't call myself an anarchist, because it is a part of my self not the entirety, but i don't shrink from the term when it is thrown against me, and i'll stand with those who wear the term, be it on the street or on the gallows.