People's concern with what they say, who they are attracted to, how to include other genders in their language, and other such sensitivity efforts are pathetically shallow and in my mind have almost nothing to do with anarchy (which to me necessarily involves a total abolition of binary and non-binary genders).
You might ask how identifying yourself as straight or thinking in gendered ways limits you and keeps you from a potential life beyond the easy, comfortable boxes which you inhabit and fuck.
But when it comes to worrying about hurting other people's feelings, look much deeper than this, because anyone who gets butthurt because your language implies that men and women might exist also has to use a public bathroom every now and again, and the latter is a much stronger slap to the face reminder of how this society works. There are people who prefer not to live in the boxes of man and woman, but as long as society works this way it will be a constant process of being put back into these boxes and then slipping out of them again. Petty efforts at inclusion and sensitivity will certainly not undo the social fantasy of gender, but could be part of building new boxes for fugitives that are more clever, more difficult to escape.