". . . a choice that does not include every voice affected by said choice would be destructive to every individual." That is exactly the point. Democracy is not about everyone having a choice, it is about the choice of a majority and the denial of choice of the minority, but really more than that: choice is not an either or proposition, choice is an individual determination. When asked, what would you life for dinner? you are given a choice. When asked, would you like spaghetti or cheese & macaroni?, you have your a choice mostly determined for you.
The word "lazy" is a poor word to have used. If democracy were to work in a more effective way then it would have to have the choices determined by those voting, by using the top 10 suggestions to vote on, then applying the top three. Many issues presently voted on have really little to do with a determination of others who are not at all effected. Abortion and same sex marriages should be decided by the people directly involved.
Many of the issues of society will never be solved by laws or votes. Answer are about giving people better choices and in the ability and support to make those choices but not based on what choices others believe they should make.