There are parts of my own question that I also have a hesitancy towards, and my difficulty answering this question is part of why I asked it. On the surface its a straight-forward question and answer: ex: “I am an anarcho-communist, so I live in a communal house with endless house meetings and a shared closet”. And yet...
Like some of you expressed in answers and comments, there seems to be a cringe-worthiness in identifying with “-ism”s generally. Still, the truth is that I do it. Heck, I call myself and anarchist, right? Much the way its difficult for me to say that I “become an anarchist”, its difficult to say that I “became an individualist” or “became anti-Civ” or “become a feminist” - the theories/ideas gave me a language and a connection and a perspective that informed feelings, angst, intuitions that were already there.
I also found that the attempt to apply such ideas to my life, to the here and now, actually lessened my grip on my chosen “anarcho-_____” and “-ism”s. Its easy to imagine the platonic ideal, but life is (obviously) more complicated then that, for a multitude of reasons not the least of which is that we life in world where our sphere of control is actually quite small.
At the same time there a digestion that takes place – the ideas become a part of you and it feels absurd to separate oneself from these ideas. So it becomes difficult to see these as ideology based because we take it for-granted. (ex: I can't imagine day to day life without seeing the politics of gender that were informed by feminism (maybe post-feminist? who knows anymore) at play, so its hard to say where gender politics end and my experience of gender separate from that begins).
Plus, there's the whole growing up thing... ;)
But, I'll parse out a few of the highlights, since, after all, its only fair to answer my own question.
My DIY-punk -ness manifests in providing for myself minimally-mediated ways. Over the years this has meant lots of gardening, learning useful skills, collecting tools, teaching and doing workshops, sewing, herbalism, etc. Creating friendships where specialties and skills are varied and shared. Finding a job/profession where I can work for myself (whatever that means in this world). I learned the value of working for something - I don't think leisure time is the ideal (in a utopia or now). I still love bad tattoos.
The Anti-Civ in me has informed a general lack of hope in the world but also a connectedness and playfulness with native (or rather, my hopeless-playfulness felt at home in this ideology). It means not having hope in reform for the sake of future generations because we're all doomed anyways (mass die-out is inevitable, after all). It means wanting to have a connection with my bioregion. I hang out at local Native Plant Society meetings, get excited every time I see a favorite native or useful plant, and go on adventures with friends foraging for wild goodies as the seasons unfold.
My Individualism/ Egoism provided me with the permission I needed to embrace some enlightened self-interest. It created a greater space for me to focus on my own needs, values, desires and give up doing things that don't serve me for the sake of making the world a better place, the anarchist scene, the “community”, etc. It's been increasingly (for better or worse) challenging for me to fully feel at home in larger social networks/scenes (whether work or anarchist...). It taught me to trust the strength of others - ex: my loved ones are strong people, and asserting myself, my wants, my ideas, having a melt-down, whatever it was I needed wasn't going to kill them. My individualist tendencies forced my to come face to face with autonomy in my relationships/friendships, which meant delving into insecurities. This made me love my own autonomy much more. I enjoy time with myself. Again with the job, I chose a profession where I can work for myself and have minimal co-workers.
But perhaps Egoism is where I found my biggest lessens in how I saw ideology in my everyday life. My exercise in navigating an “anarcho-individualist life” brought me to a place where I felt that the greatest expression of these ideas was in the abandonment of them as an ideology. I no longer wanted to look to others for instructions on how to live - not even Stirner or Novatore! I learned the strength and difficulty of finding my own values and needs, paradoxically even if that meant contradicting the Egoist ideals. ;)