[random thoughts:]
k.lin::
"gratifying their desire for power & control"
I think that does, at the core, apply to every Thing we hate - sexist structures, capitalist structures, police state structures, monoculture, and on and on...
(Though there is always an aspect of fear in the agent, goading on that gratification.)
dot::
Yes, any mention of 'rape' definitely loads the conversation, but perhaps we are overly scant with our priming powder? I freely admit my near-ignorance on the subject, (and am woefully trying to balance the experience of the individual, with the patterns aggregated over the broadscale of our societies), but i read your comments as meaning harm of one individual against another individual (personal or impersonal).
Yet systemic sexual exploitation sleets by us everyday - u.n. 'peacekeepers' accused of exploiting children for candy and favors (the latest in a long line of the same); women in impoverished african towns trading the fishermen - sex for fish, because they have no other way to feed their children; the near-endless litany of abuses from the orphanages and residential schools, run by both church and state, in nation after nation; the coerced sex trade around us this very day - how can you consent to anything, with an empty belly and a roving addiction and violence at every turn?
(Blindspot?? i know it is for me, a common weakness?)