Well, in many points you've just made, I can say like the dermatologist hears all the time, "Thanks for clearing that up". You're right, It's not some hive mentality where all anarchists think alike. That would be an oxymoron. It's just something I see a lot here.
When you say that working hard and helping others reflects the ideals of American capitalism, I have to look at people like the head of the federal reserve. Very American, very capitalist. Yet, he neither works hard or helps others.
To be against capitalism means to work much harder than any capitalist and affords the ability to help others through your labor.
That is, after capital, there is still the natural force causing you to work. Like that which dictated the life of the Native American. Which is, how do we eat. This was later replaced with, why do we eat? And soon, where should we go for lunch?
I suppose I was also looking at all states as one, perhaps looking at globalization too
far off in the future. So, when I looked at the state bombing the third world, I looked at it as thee whole system, a bit of a stretch, although, that statement didn't totally imply that I was ONLY refusing to support that state. However, it said nothing of other states.
Thanks, @anok, very helpful.