if i accept your terminology, then control over one's own life is ok. control over other people's lives is not ok, and whatever "enforcement" happens would be people resisting other people's control over them.
random example: one group of people likes to smoke, one group doesn't want to breathe that smoke. one good option is to have different areas for smokers. bad options would be to tell everyone that they have to breathe smoke, or that no one can smoke. appropriate (anarchistic?) enforcement would be by the people who are involved, not a body of people in a hierarchy (writing laws, for example), or people representing other people (politicians of whatever sort, missionaries, etc.).
edited to spell things out a bit more. fwtw.