Violence is a pretty loaded word. The violence of me punching you in the nose is a pretty different creature than the violence of dropping a bomb on a village or starving a category of humans. The family of ideas and activities the term implies makes it pretty unusable during most conversations that anarchists would want to have about a better world, about anarchist ideas, or about how to get there.
To the extent that a conversation about anarchy is an introduction to a body of ideas then obviously the first ones aren't necessarily going to be about conflict resolution, but eventually they will be. The instinct that people have to want to punch each other in the nose is a pretty strong one. Perhaps even a fundamental one. If (or since) that is the case then violence is part of being a person. The desire for violence, the belief that "something" is solved with interpersonal violence, is probably part of the human project. If violence is human AND the desire to live without coercion and "power over" is human then the only thing that is antithetical is humans to humans.
Which is probably a fair assessment of our current condition.
One last note. Bolo'bolo has a nice section about conflict in a different world that may be worth quoting (short version).
"yaka: Every ibu (individual) can challenge any other ibu or a larger community to a duel, according to those rules."
It may be possible to agree to terms by which conflict is human scale and, perhaps, includes consensual violence.