so there are two arguments about pronouns relating to autonomy and they are as follows:
One can choose their own pronouns, because it is a reference to them, they are choosing how they are addressed and exercising their autonomy. thus, anyone calling them otherwise is being authoritative. Most people agree that anyone can choose their own name, if examined logically, but I suppose I can see why it is more convoluted with pronouns as they are not unique to an individual, but when used they are specific to them.
One can choose how they talk and the words they use. someone can choose their own name and pronouns, however it is up to others whether or not they respect this.
can anyone see either of these arguments as superior to the other and say why? I know there have been questions on here about transgender people and gender roles feminism gender deconstruction etc. and I would be excited to discuss that stuff too but id really like to hear opinions on the above.