I think that these points are valuable, yes.
I know anarchist men who talk over people or interrupt women, and it makes sense that not only that guy is criticized and tries to be mindful, but also that the women he interacts with learn how to do that themselves. Sometimes there is a moralistic criticism of this mentality that sounds something like "Patriarchy is a mens' issue, why should women have to deal with men's shit?" This is a very utopian train of thought, which is fine to keep in mind, but ultimately not helpful in the real world where structural forces are producing shitty guys in the millions, who are going to continue to be shitty no matter how many of your "conscious" male friends get into facebook arguments with them.
The part about prefiguring gender is where I lose my ability to clearly articulate myself because it's very confusing. I actually chose to answer this question as a sounding board for my thoughts on the subject, so here goes nothing!
I'm a man and grew up falling into many passive roles. Much of my behavior and ways of thinking sound a lot like what I hear women are socialized into: I am very aware of situations, go out of my way to make everyone comfortable (even if they don't deserve it), and in my early relationships I avoided confrontation and defaulted to passive aggressiveness and not saying how I feel about things.
In many other ways my behavior reflects what these types of articles typifies of men. So the mindset that this train of thought brings up, about prefiguring gender, is good in that it covers all the bases. But as someone who was socialized passive and who then got into anarchism and read zines about how aggressive I was as a man...it didn't help. Only recently have I realized more about myself and my behavior from the passive/assertive and other typically gendered roles that I fall into normally or not.
Also, I know plenty of women who interrupt people and lack situational awareness. Many of them are 'rad.' They are never the targets of said zines and therefore don't ever feel the guilt and responsibility to become more aware of power as it flows between people in every day situations. Maybe this is fine though, in that men are much more likely to rape than women, and silencing women is definitely connected to that, so there's less urgency for women to unlearn stuff.
To summarize: on the one hand it's good to be aware of the range of behaviors that society OFTEN socializes men and women into. On the other hand it ends up imposing gendered stuff onto people in an unhelpful way and, as dot pointed out, changing individual behavior won't stop the structural mechanisms causing said behavior. Also it ignores that everyone has different individual forms of socialization and nobody fits any mold perfectly.
Maybe it's best to keep in mind that men need to be more aware, but that EVERYONE should read up on stuff like this? But then again, structural forces produce millions of shitty people every year. So is it really worth it? Maybe just among friends and comrades to make more bearable scenes? I don't know this is all so confusing to me!