these days the only time i use the word consent is in purely sarcastic jest. i feel like the word has been pummeled into virtual meaninglessness, most recently by (the majority of) the me-too movement.
the idea that nobody should be forced to do something they choose not to do is inherent in my anarchist perspective. but the way the word "consent" is often used these days just makes me cringe.
i guess i want relationships in my life where the idea of "consent" does not usually require explicit verbal dialog - though there are surely situations where such a discussion might well be necessary. the context of the situation and our relationship tells my what i need to know, in most cases.
if i want to grab your ass, but i do not know if you are ok with it, i would not do so without asking you if you are ok with it. but chances are pretty damn good that i wouldn't want to grab the ass of anyone that i don't know well enough to infer from our relationship whether they would be ok with it. if i grabbed their ass thinking they were ok with it, and they actually were not ok with it, then i clearly misjudged our relationship (or the immediate context of the situation), and i would apologize and move on. if i grabbed their ass and they were/seemed ok with it, but then years later claimed that they weren't... i'd apologize and then ask them why the fuck they didn't say something when i did it. what they might have meant was that they were ok with it at the time, but at this later point in their life they would not be ok with it (and are not ok with what happened in retrospect). that is a very different scenario, and one that i can much more easily understand and empathize with.
Usually I hear the term consent being used in regards to sexual matters. Some instances of it is when they're talking about at what arbitrary age can one give consent. Like in some countries a 15 year old is incapable of giving consent, but in other countries a 12 year old is capable of giving consent. But when the 15 year old gives consent to do something viewed as immoral, then their consent is "valid consent" while the 12 year old consent would not be. Very confusing to me. It's taboo to discuss young people and consent in regards to sexual stuff and I think it's been discussed on here
There are some people that use the term to absurdity and it's hard to take them seriously. Like according to a tiny amount of people, having a fantasy or sexual thoughts about someone is rape if you don't get their consent first to have said thoughts. That just sounds creepy to go up to someone and ask them if you have their consent to varnish the pole or paddle the pink canoe later when alone.
I don't know, but I tend not to use the word consent unless I'm trying to choke the intellectual chicken. Using the term in day to day life just seems awkward. Like "Hey Elmer, do I have your consent to borrow a pair of your Zubaz?" See very awkward.