The most common critique of anarchists is that they spend too much time talking about society, politics, etc. not enough time on action. A lot of talking in our culture ends up being a self-psychoanalysis and I get sick of it too depending on several factors, but through a lot of experimentation i've found out that "just keeping my thoughts to myself" isn't really good enough, and if im working on projects with people i have to think aloud or else i just get confused and irritated and i simply can't make good recommendations or decisions.
Of course every individual is different in terms of the kinds of conversations they can stomach or are willing to participate in, even though they are influenced by group-think and convention. Some of the more nihilistic anarchists have criticized the types of conversations that people have as "naval-gazing", but then they just participate in the same type of conversation, even if it's more indirect.
Do what extent do you agree with the people who think that we just shouldn't talk about this shit? Do you think there are some good parameters for talking other than just the level of nastiness and hostility (i don't believe i've met anyone who enjoys that, unless they are dishing it out and not taking it.)